Many of us have spent our lives trying—trying to be better, trying to succeed, trying to heal, trying to become more spiritual, or trying to be seen. But what if the very act of trying is the thing keeping us stuck?
The shift from trying to being may seem subtle, but it’s profoundly transformational. It’s a shift that impacts everything—from the way we experience success and self-worth to the way we manifest and create our lives.
In Episode 65 of the Living Through Heart Podcast, I explore how the unconscious energy of "trying" keeps us trapped in cycles of frustration, striving, and self-sabotage. And more importantly, I share how stepping into being allows us to experience true alignment, fulfillment, and ease.
The Problem with Trying
"Trying" is a word that carries resistance. When we say, I’m trying to be more confident, I’m trying to meditate more, or I’m trying to manifest abundance, what we’re really saying is I don’t believe I already have it.
Trying comes from a place of lack. It signals to our subconscious—and to the universe—that we don’t yet have what we desire, and that we don’t truly believe we are capable of it.
🔹 Trying creates frustration and exhaustion.
🔹 It reinforces the belief that you’re not enough.
🔹 It keeps you stuck in cycles of striving but never arriving.
This is why we see people trying their whole lives—trying to be successful, trying to be happy, trying to heal—without ever truly experiencing the wholeness they seek.
Trying is the endless pursuit of something that we believe we are separate from.
But being changes everything.
The Power of Being
Being is about embodying the energy of what you want—right now.
✨ Instead of trying to attract abundance, be the person who already has it.
✨ Instead of trying to be confident, embody confidence today.
✨ Instead of trying to find love, become love in your daily existence.
When we are something, rather than trying to be it, we eliminate resistance. We stop waiting for external validation, and we begin radiating the frequency of the thing we desire.
This shift is energetic, psychological, and spiritual.
💡 Trying is focused on the future. It says, I will be happy when...
💡 Being is focused on the present. It says, I am already whole.
Being is effortless. It’s a natural state of alignment where we no longer have to force things into place.
Why We Get Stuck in "Trying" Mode
If being is so powerful, why do we spend so much time trying instead?
The answer lies in conditioning, trauma, and subconscious beliefs.
From childhood, many of us were taught that we must earn our worth. That we must strive, struggle, and prove ourselves before we can be happy.
🔹 We were praised for effort rather than alignment.
🔹 We were taught that working hard is more valuable than working smart.
🔹 We were conditioned to believe that success comes from sacrifice.
But this is an illusion. True success, healing, and manifestation do not come from struggle. They come from alignment.
And alignment is a state of being, not doing.
Shifting from Trying to Being: 5 Powerful Practices
If you’re ready to step out of effort and into ease, here are five transformative practices to shift from trying to being:
1️⃣ Self-Observation: Catch Yourself in "Trying" Mode
The first step to transformation is awareness.
Start noticing when you use the language of "trying":
🚫 I’m trying to be more confident.
🚫 I’m trying to lose weight.
🚫 I’m trying to heal.
Instead, reframe it into a statement of being:
✅ I am becoming more confident every day.
✅ I am embodying health and vitality.
✅ I am already healing and whole.
Your words shape your reality, and the way you speak to yourself matters.
2️⃣ Embodiment Practices: Step Into the Energy of Who You Want to Be
Being is a felt experience. It’s something you embody, not just something you think about.
Ask yourself: How would I feel if I already had what I wanted?
💫 If you want to be more confident, stand, walk, and speak as a confident person today.
💫 If you want more abundance, feel the gratitude of already having enough.
💫 If you want deeper love, cultivate self-love within yourself first.
This is where somatic practices, meditation, and visualization can be powerful tools.
3️⃣ Releasing Limiting Beliefs & Healing Old Patterns
A huge reason we stay in trying mode is because of subconscious programming.
If you’ve spent years believing that you’re not good enough, it’s going to feel unnatural to just "be" confident.
This is where healing work comes in.
✔️ Hypnotherapy can help rewrite subconscious beliefs.
✔️ Shamanic healing can clear ancestral energy patterns.
✔️ Inner child work can help release deep-seated fears.
Healing is the process of removing the layers that keep you from simply being yourself.
4️⃣ Taking Inspired Action, Not Forced Effort
Being doesn’t mean inaction. It means taking action from a place of alignment, rather than force.
🚫 Trying: "I need to do 10 things today to prove my worth."
✅ Being: "I feel inspired to take this one aligned step forward today."
When we act from a state of being, life flows. Opportunities arise naturally. Things fall into place with ease.
5️⃣ Practice Compassion & Patience
Stepping into being is a journey. It takes practice, patience, and self-love.
If you find yourself slipping back into trying mode, don’t judge yourself. Instead, lovingly remind yourself:
💛 "I am already enough."
💛 "I don’t need to strive. I just need to align."
💛 "I can choose ease over effort."
By continually bringing yourself back into the present and trusting the process, you’ll find yourself being more and trying less.
Final Thoughts: The Power of Being
The shift from trying to being is one of the most powerful transformations you can make.
When you stop striving and start embodying, life changes.
✨ You attract what you desire effortlessly.
✨ You experience peace instead of stress.
✨ You stop chasing success and start living it.
💡 Your life is not about becoming someone else. It’s about uncovering who you already are.
🌿 If you’d like more in-depth strategies to shift your nervous system from a state of trying to relaxing into being, listen to Episode 65 of the Living Through Heart Podcast! 🎧 https://living-through-heart.simplecast.com/episodes/rebirth-and-reflections